Does anyone else have this issue? (rant, advice)

I have an issue that’s been affecting my marriage negatively for years. I am looking for comfort and guidance as to handle this. I am very impulsive when it comes to decisions and I often forget to ask my husband about his opinion on things. I feel horrible for doing things that I in a split second think will be better for me or both of us, just to realize I have inconvienced him or us both by simply not asking. Like moving heavy furniture on my own, damaging our floors. Like impulse buying things when money is thight. This could be solved by me just asking a quick question or two, like ”hey, could you help me with this”, or ”do you think I should buy this? I’d like your input”. I just end up making him frustrated or disappointed. My RSD then flares up as I break down crying, making it about me even though he is the one feeling looked past, which I then feel even worse about. I go to therapy for other things. How could I bring this up to my therapist?