28F Do you wake your spouse up when your toddler wakes up?

I 28F & my husband 28M (been together 10y married 7) have a 1.5yo toddler. I am a SAHM & my husband is in the military. One thing we have always argued abt since the birth of our daughter is his sleep schedule.

He wakes up at abt 5:30 & he's like an office-ish job so for the most part unless there's training or field stuff going on he works a normal 9-5. Soon they will be 12hr shifts tho but atp no. My life revolves around baby time so I'm up when the baby is up, usually 6-8am. We cosleep so I am up throughout the night with her. Have been since birth.

He liked to stay up all night gaming & sleep in all day most weekends or days off like leave, etc. at our last duty station & it just eventually ends up me being with our child 24/7 & I don't think it's fair & I don't get time to be a human & my mental & physical health was in the garbage. I had to turn down several surgeries bc I had no help & just suffered through chronic health problems while being a ftm with an infant & a husband who prioritized gaming over his family.

Well.

We separated for a little while during a pcs, he was trying to fix his sleep schedule & other behaviors. Recently got back together & it's been like 2 weeks. He doesn't have any of his gaming stuff like he did before so things have been fine.

Until this morning.

Toddler woke up at 7:25. I got her milk bottle & breakfast, cuddled for a bit, then around 8:30 we went to go wake him up. It takes many tries to wake him up, asking him to get up, eventually he did.

8:50 he walks into the living room, looks at the clock, then turns to me to say he thought it was like 10am, I know he works, why can't I like let him sleep in an hr or so & I was like I did? We agreed he would wake up when the baby woke up? That was a deal breaker after a year or more of him spending maybe 3hrs a day with us for a year straight bc of his sleep schedule?

He just stopped talking & went back in the bedroom.

And I just don't know anymore. Is that too much to ask? Both my parents worked (my mom a school teacher so she had summers off), but they always work up at the same time? I don't even wake him up when the baby wakes up. Even if I stay up until midnight or 2am I just accept my fate when the baby wakes up.

She goes to bed at 8pm :( We have constantly fought abt him choosing to stay up but refusing the consequences of his choice the next day & taking it out on us where he refuses to spend time with us.

But am I supposed to let him sleep in? When I did at our last duty station it could be literally 1pm trying to wake him up and he calls me a bad word and spiteful and all kinds of names for waking him up.

I just don't know what to do. There's so much to this and I don't know what to do? Are my expectations too much?

TLDR; if ur a sahm & ur husband works r u supposed to not wake him up on weekends & let him sleep in however long he wants when u have a toddler who has been up for hours?