Should I stay or leave my fiancé who once had me jailed, hurt me deeply, but also did so much good for me?

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Problem/Goal: Should I stay or leave my fiancé who once had me jailed, hurt me deeply, but also did so much good for me?

I’m really torn right now and need honest advice. I’ve been with my fiancé for some time, and our relationship has been a rollercoaster. He once had me jailed — yes, actually jailed — and that experience broke me in ways I can’t even explain. It’s something I still can’t fully forget, even if I try to forgive him. Despite everything, we somehow made it through. We’re okay now — he treats me better, and he’s done a lot of good things for me. He’s helped me during tough times, supported me when I needed someone, and there are days when he makes me feel loved and safe. But other days, I still feel the pain from the past. He also has kids. And as much as I’ve tried, I struggle to accept that part of his life. I’m young and not ready to take on that responsibility. It makes me feel guilty because I know they’re innocent and they don’t deserve my resentment — but I can’t help how I feel. Deep down, I just want peace. I want a love that doesn’t hurt or confuse me. But every time I try to walk away, something pulls me back — the memories, the good things he’s done, the comfort of what’s familiar. Should I stay and keep trying to make this work, or is it finally time to walk away for good?

Posted Sep 28, 2025, 1:37 PM UTC

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