My boyfriend’s family did not respect our relationship

I am 25f and my (now ex) boyfriend is 28m. If you look at a post I made months ago, you’ll see that I was frustrated over his family’s dependency on him.

His 24 year old sister pays no bills and only has a part time job even though she’s been living in the country for over a year now. (She came from the Philippines.) My ex gave her several ultimatums about contributing in the household and paying her bills. That was two weeks ago, and she still hasn’t moved out. The plan was that I would move in once she left the household so that our relationship could grow and so that we could save together.

Waiting so long for her to get her shit together when she promised she would help him out has been frustrating to say the least! I feel ragebaited! It has set our relationship back and it’s not helping my ex ‘s finances either. Of course I’m frustrated that he let it get this far when I gave him several warnings about the implications this would have on our future. That’s also why I broke up with him.

On another note, his mom is also a crappy person. Though she lives in the Philippines and is also freeloading off of her own mom, she constantly tried to tell my ex that she wasn’t being too harsh on his sister and that he needed to understand her. She also implied that I was the one ruining the family dynamic and pushing him away from them. In her own words the three of them are supposed to be “a team”.

Before leaving the relationship, I went to his apartment when he was only there and ended up throwing all his sister’s belongings around the apartment. I ended up breaking one of her frames and ripping some pieces of paper. I don’t regret this. She never f apologized for being lazy and irresponsible. She bought concert tickets, a new iPhone, and went on a bunch of outings knowing that her brother was in need of her money and we wanted to save for our future. Not only that, but we confronted her only for her to say that she wasn’t going to move out just because we wanted her to and that she was going to put her dreams first. Just typing all of this pisses me off!