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So, I’m a 13(F) meaning I’ve just turned a teen not long ago. Recently I’ve been feeling annoyed by my mom. I can’t talk to her about it because if I do she’ll feel hurt and start saying “How could you feel annoyed by me? I’m your mom. Y’know. This is how I know you don’t love me and you’re not gonna take care of me when I get old.” Yeah. So I always keep my feelings bottled up from when I was younger up to now. Recently, those feelings seem to be spilling out because she’s been saying that I’ve been disrespecting her and “raising my voice”. She says I didn’t do that when I was younger so why am I doing it now? She calls me a “big woman”. When I try to get out of her space she’s always calling me back into it. She calls me to do lots of unnecessary stuff for her that she can DEFINITELY do herself. Today. I was helping her clean her room and she just kept on complaining, I shut my mouth and tried to keep calm. But I eventually snapped when I had a shopping bag as my art bag. She said it doesn’t look good and I shouldn’t be carrying it to school and bla blah blah. I got mad and “supposedly” started yelling at her, I think I was just venting but I told her that my art teacher told us to bring these types of bags to school because XYZ. After I finished explaining, she got quiet then turned to me and said, “alright then.. so why are you raising your voice at me?” That just left me bewildered. She then asked “Why are you getting mad at me?” This made more anger bubble up inside of me because a lot of times she gives me attitude or her tone sounds like she doesn’t want to deal with me and her words are hurtful. I don’t tell her this because she would say I’m lying and she doesn’t do that. She started saying that I’m disrespectful, I have no manners, I wasn’t like this when I was younger, and bla blah blah. She then told me that she wasn’t gonna help me with the kitchen anymore and that I had to finish the kitchen AND do the living room as well. Mind you that I do those everyday. So ontop of cleaning her room for her, I had to clean two other places. And the living room is ALWAYS a big mess. In the end, I just shut my mouth, as usual, and did what I was supposed to do. Am I the a**hole..?