Needed space 33M 41F 2 years plus

So, I have a female bestfriend who I met over the phone in 2022. We are both in wheelchairs, never saw each other in person just FaceTime because we’re 4hrs away. We talked, became cool because of similar life experiences and after a couple of months we had romantic interests and started moving towards a relationship where she would have moved to my city because she wanted to move anyway. I did a background check and found out she was still married going through a divorce. She told me way before that she was married and divorced before. I confronted her and left her know that’s why I stepped back from the romantic interest and she said well “you know you’re my bestfriend right?” So I accepted that. We were both in relationships a month or so later. So throughout the years we remained cool but when I get in a relationship she doesn’t understand that we won’t talk as much especially since this is an over the phone friendship. She likes to be up after hours and I used to be up during that time too but that ended for me once my sleep pattern was back to normal. So she’d call and text but I won’t answer a lot of times because I was sleeping or with my woman. She accuses me of being fake but whatever.

The issue became her contacting after hours and I’d say stop and she’d say she would but kept doing it. I’m 2023 she had a stroke from hospital meds and it made her blind for the most part and lost a little feeling in her hands and some regular functioning. So I try to be nice and know she wants someone to talk to. She eventually was single and I was too. Then I got into another relationship. Had the same issues. Boundary wasn’t respected. I said stop texting me so late and she blew up, cussed me out and disrespected me and referred to my girl as a B. I blocked her. 6 months later we got in contact again, I was single and sent her information about soursop because I thought about her past stomach cancer issues after I learned about that fruit that was new to me. She apologized and we were cool. Now 8 months later for the 100th time we’re at the same issue of texting late or calling waking me up. I respectfully calmly addressed it again and said maybe I need space and she blew up and cussed me out and made it about her after I said don’t take it personal. I said 7 days space. She said we don’t ever have to talk again and I’ll never dismiss her like she’s the problem in my life. I wanted space and blocked her after she said F ME. What to do?