Am i wrong? We are different communities? We need safe guarding!

Hello I'm new to the group thank you for letting me be apart of this community I'm am truly grateful to have found my community. Trigger warning I am talking about abuse. This talks about kink therefore minors especially with the subject matter. Absolutely no hate to people in bdsm or into ddlg or abdl. But i think are communities are different and want to talk about my personal experience on why i think there should be some acknowledgment in our community and the bdsm community as well. I'm just going to share my experience first I came to know age regression through kink and have personally decided to stay away from the kink community. My age regression was the never nonsexual I have also used it to cope with trauma. I have actually gained severe trauma from individuals in the bdsm community and want to share my experience to heal, to open the dialog about potential abuse individuals in our community can face and also what healthy care giver relationship should like, and consent and healthy relationships in our community but also in the bdsm community. So have gotten into 3 relationships where i was clear i wasn't sexual in my little space but was coerced is to sexual relationship i feel i was taken advantage of. I had moved to be with a caregiver. Which on a side notes makes you extremely vulnerable because you have no support. Another side note if you choose to leave your life for someone please put safe guarding measures like having a job lined up and a apartment lined up. Truly vet this person, clearly know what you want and stick to it ,also background checking and having location, and address and as much information as humanly possible on this person, having a very large saving of at least 1000-1500 dollars ideally 5,000 or more saved especially if you plan to move in with them. Also if they are paying insist on a return plan ticket just in case. People can tell you everything you want to hear and be totally different in person. Please have a safety plan similar to one in domestic abuse that includes phone numbers of trusted individuals print this of incase phone is broken which happened to me. Also include local domestic violence hotline and sexual assault center. Have up to date indication for you an any dependents and animals deregistered in your name and microchipped. My abuser gave my cat to a person he person he was cheating with. I never got my cat returned. That cat was my everything. Some people will try to hurt you in any way possible. I could make a list of important thing to grab because in a traumatic event we will forget and even have a go bag in the first weeks. You might also consider having someone in agere community they may know at an event or ex partner vouge for them. But back to the story all there of the exes i knew where extremely emotionally toxic, try to isolate me from my community, I was made to stay in the house in one, they where extremely controlling and expected my life to perfectly match the expectations and be extremely submissive, they also try to control my career 2 to case which is finically abuse. They can also get physically violate and use rules to unhealthy control you or punish you for nothing. I'm going to stay this for everyone even those in the back If age regression is not sexual you do not have to do it and if someone violates it or use punishment to control you age regression that is rape not love please get out of the situation. When i am in little space me personally do not like sex it is traumatic for me. I'm in a disassociate headspace that of a child. Yes i am of age but not of age in the mindset I'm in and i am extremely vulnerable. I speak for me and me only but once you start sexualizing it i feel in my opinion it becomes ddlg or a kink in some way please correct me if I'm wrong. Another thing that cause me a lot of tramua is I'm of age I'm 26 but i look every every young to the point partner have questioned my age and thought i was under age or looked as young as 16. Which kinda in the dynamic where in makes me question if you into children which makes me really unease and it probably a personally problem. Also men on fetlife who are usuallly significant older are trying to convince women to move in with them. Some I'm sure as young as 18. I think especially in my case i wanted a caregiver so bad that i probably overlooked red flags but also they will tell you whatever want to hear. My healing is not your pleasure. I would like better distention between our community and bdsm. It also make our community look like we sexualize chidish thing which most of do not. I creates a stigma for our community which can in its self be traumatizing. Sorry for trauma dumping it was in an effort to protect others. I don't even know if this allowed. But from the expercise i didnt want to be little anymore or even have sex which i only want in big or adult space anyways. Thank you for letting me be apart of this community and learn to reheal and retrust through this. Please post any comments to help our community more safe and vettred from the weirdo. Because there are young people that just want acceptance and go about the wrong way and there are real abusers. Some dynamic can defientlty mirror abuse. Theres abusers in every life sytle including vannilla just be safe. I'm think of making a health relationship course for relationships in generally but kink related as well. Some people especially littles dont know what a healthly relationship look likes. They only know tramua. Also alot of suffer with autsim or bpd which with autsim might have trouble reading people. With bpd might have fear of abandonment and intense relationships. I have been diagnosed with autism and highly suscept i have bpd. Also a lack of self worth comes with both so we have vulnerable. Know what you want sick it, have boundaries, love yourself, and know your worth. You are loved you are valid.