My [23f] boyfriend [23M] is unironically scary smart.

TLDR: my boyfriend intelligence scares me. Has anyone had a similar experience and how did it turn out?

(English is not my first language) For some context, I’d say he has some kind of trust issues, he doesn’t open much about his past but I’m mostly sure he went thru some trauma. I’m his first serious girlfriend but he’s always had some kind of situationship or something unserious going on, we have been officially together for a little less than a year, but we have been close to each other for like three years and we have been knowing each other since high school.

He’s smart in a frightening way, it feels off, for example. It started when I told him a guy was being weird with me on instagram and just by some random information and in an handful of minutes he could tell who he was, his siblings and he provided like a couple ways I could know him.

I’m not descending into the details but he just pulls off stuff in ways me and other people could not figure out, but in a way that weirds me out: I’m like how the fuck he did that?

For example, today I messaged him “goodnight I’m going to sleep” but I was actually doing something else, after half an hour he messaged me “you not asleep why you keep lying about useless stuff?”. I was pretty freaking out so I asked him how did he do that and he came up with a plausible explanation about my text timing pattern.

I’m used to lying, not about important stuff but on small things, I used it in my past relationships to hide myself for judgment and other discomfort but it sticked to me. My white lies worsen his trust issues.

I really love him and he probably does much more than I do but lately that’s happening way more often than before and sometimes it makes me feel uneasy.

Does anyone has had a similar experience? How did it turn out?

Posted Sep 29, 2025, 11:33 PM UTC

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