I'm teaching the end

At the end of my tether

I'm fed up of my wife showing no interest in me. I'm a 54M in good shape, I look after myself. Shes 53F. Tonight was tough. Tried to set the scene - i always initiate. She micro rejects me a lot - phone, not listening (I have to repeat things several times, ti the extent i'll often follow with a WhatsApp message if im out wtc as she'll gas light me into nro convining me i never told her) We went to bed and started kissing, my wife started kissing me what I thought was different and passionately. I reciprocated and she said I was getting too hot and heavy and withdrew several times. Thats the wnd of that. Sex is sporadic, initiated by me and i feel she doea it unded duress. Its killing my self esteen and self worth. She never sees to my needs, so no touching or pleasuring me, i do all that to her. She's keeping passion and sex from me and its killing me. No effort to seduce, set a scene, discuss fantasies or what she or we like don't like. I'm back on the sofa confused. Our libidos are totally out of synch. Shes quite overwight, doesnt exercise and has no passion in life. We're married 25 years this November and I can't imagine the rest of my life being like this. I'm so tired.