Is this sexism on the part of a therapist or a real thing?

I am a woman and she is a woman. We were trying to decode what lead to my last breakup. "Did you show enough vulnerability? Leave him space to be a man? Ask him for help around the house, etc.?". It sounded a little...sexist, but incidentally, yes. I am quite helpless with things like repairs and I did ask him for his help, and thanked him for it.

Second thing that we covered was that I once had troubles at my place(real, safety related ones) and asked him to stay at him for a couple of days. He said yes, but made it very clear he wasn't crazy about it, and later told me how traumatising it was for him to just find someone on his doorstep, and that he would have wanted at least to be asked(even though I did ask him, I looked through the messages, and he was the one to come pick me up). I understand people have boundaries, but it was heartbreaking for me, especially considering that he bought an entire apartament for his ex after they dated less than we had. I thought therapy would shine some light on this dynamic or at least just help me feel a little better emotionally. Her insight was: ''There was a problem and you came with a solution. You didn't leave space for him to be a man and come up with a solution himself." According to her, I should have been like "I'm having trouble. My place isn't safe anymore. What do you think I should do?" and let him propose I stay at his place. She also said on other occasions weakness is feminine and therefore attractive to a lot of men.

Is this counterproductive to the goal of therapy(which, in my view, should help you become a self reliant adult and not the opposite), or an actual truth that I'm too woke to admit?