31 [F4M] #EST #Online - Given where we are, it’s not that deep. Desperation attracts nitwits

I am a woman in a long term relationship looking form something simple, sleek and elegant in its own way. I am not looking to meet so it will remain online, starting here and once we establish compatibility and chemistry we can migrate to discord for phase two. I’ve been here before and am returning not because I didn’t have success, but because even success has a shelf life.

Why do so many come here with expectations higher than they have of their own partner? It makes no sense to me all the groveling and pining for “my person”. A spark - sure (even though I hate these kinds of cliches). I am here simply for the fact that after seven years habituation sets in and is hard to fight back at all times. Sometimes you want something light and refreshing to make it easier to appreciate all that you have at home.

I am not here to escape some misery, or to thrust on another something that is my own responsibility. I hope you take ownership of your happiness, as that is a heavy burden to place on someone you claim to love. Also, it’s misguided and will lead to disappointment. We’re adults, and whining about how your wife won’t be intimate with you while failing to make any effort to improve yourself is wild. Are YOU the person you need to be to attract this perfect person you seek to find in a chat room? The answer to that question is very telling. Not all of us are ready to be that honest with ourselves.

I am the things I seek out in others before I even dare to ask the universe to help me found a connection with a suitable counterpart. You want some fit young thing, but proudly proclaim your dad bod? Grow up. The people that find that endearing are oftentimes insecure and just like to feel like they are slightly out of their partners league to quell their own sense of inferiority or fear they might leave them for someone better.

But people seldom leave just because physical attraction. They go where they feel desired and valued, even if this person is less physically attractive. People are drawn to people that validate the way they see themselves, or wish to be seen by others. We are addicted to that hit we get from a crush because there is so much possibility, and vibrance. It’s a form of play I enjoy as it makes me feel like I am firing on all cylinders and operating at optimist performance. This little something just for me.

That’s why I am here. Please keep your expectations realistic. I’d like the conversation to come easy and so I will go where I am lead in accordance with this. I often ruffle feathers and can be a bit spitfire but what I lack in niceness, I make up with a charm, wit, sex appeal, confidence. Not interested in nonchalant types who can’t bare to pay a woman a compliment because their frail wounded egos. You’ve been catfished before, we get it - don’t make it every other female’s problem unless you want to avoid any form of success.

I have no children, I am petite, have a slim/athletic physique and like to write (hopefully it shows). I don’t like winky faces, mushrooms, or the dumb tired tactics that seem in rotation for the majority here (20 questions, doms, truth or dare, dead bedroom whiners).

Hope you enjoyed my lecture. DM me a real introduction. YOU, not your AI assistant.