Am I a total deal breaker? 25F dated 28M for 1 month

Hello! I'm a 25F Filipina nurse I want to date someone because I crave companionship and I want to have a future with someone. I'm not actually attracted to my own race. I tried but I just don't see myself with them. I'm attracted to white or latinos (definitely not the older ones). I dated some but it didn't work. I've recently ended things with a guy 2 weeks ago (dated for 1 month) because of this. This was a frequent topic. He (28M) likes it here and he's a digital nomad. He wanted to pause or end it and I decided it would be better to end it.

The problem is I'm leaving the Philippines in a few years depending on my processing for USA EB3 visa. So I don't know when that will be, some even waited for more or less 10 years due to retrogression. I want to go there because my family is moving to US or Canada one by one.

I don't want to be left here alone and I feel like I don't have a future here. I'm not certain if I want US to be my end destination. It's my plan A. It could another country but definitely not here. I heard Spain might be good but idk if there's a pathway for nurses - plan B (Philippines was a colony of Spain so citizenship could be done in 2 years but I have no family there). I tell my dates this to be transparent. I want honesty to be the foundation in a relationship. So yeah, I find it very hard to be with someone. I kinda need another POV. Am I a red flag?

Posted Oct 2, 2025, 1:45 PM UTC

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