Absolute Domination Coupled with Devestating Gentleness

Hi all! I'm looking for MF (or MFM+) where the male(s) demands absolute control of the FMC but has an extremely gentle and loving way of handling her. I dont want it to be BDSM gameplay - I want a real situation. Some I've found that I LOVE are {The Community by Deathsdoll}, {If I Can't Have You by Deathsdoll}, {Ritual Sins by Anne Stuart} and {The Maiden by Celia Aaron}. I want the FMC to fight against the control and guard herself relentlessly while the MMC coaxes her to let go and give herself to him completely. I want her terrified of falling for him (but obviously falling for him anyway). Needless to say this trope is going to have lots of dubcon, noncon, and psychological abuse. Im down with all that (sorry, not sorry). I love cult situations and fantasy/alien societies that operate along these lines. I like Ruby Dixon esque but I want a higher level of writing and character development than her stuff (and more fighting against the situation before giving in). Not crazy about contemporary (unless cult/fantasy) and not crazy about vampire/farie/werewolf stuff. But if it is any of those and hits all my other boxes feel free to recommend it - im open minded. Also bonus if it has an audiobook format. Thanks in advance!!!