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lostlyses

my gf has been distant

so me and my girlfriend have been together since april now. she still lives with her family but she is 20, long story short they were having housing problems. they are currently living with my gfs aunt and her cousins. she is now out with her cousins all night and at this other persons house who is supposedly related to her cousins through her kid. i dont know what to do because she is out ALL night and obviously sleeps all day since shes getting no nightime sleep. me and her used to be on facetime minimum 22 hours out of the day for 6 months straight. thats not an exaggeration. ever since she moved in with them she has been distant and asking for more space. we have been on the phone and texting, id say max 3 hours a day. i keep telling her how this is hurting me and hurting us and she tells me "we have to have a life outside of eachother" i understand that and i told her that thats true but i proceeded to ask for one night a week where we can be on the phone all night like we used to. she said no. she also said i am putting too much stress on her and that she cant keep giving me reassurance like she has been. i just feel so much like shes losing interest. she never texts me while we arent otp, she never calls or texts first, she never sends me pictures of herself. everytime i tell her this she says im putting too much pressure on her. i seriously dont know what to do or if im in the wrong but im so hurt

Posted Oct 2, 2025, 1:51 PM UTC

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