If your kids are in high school and can’t do their laundry, load a dishwasher, make a simple meal, or clean a toilet, you’re doing them an incredible disservice.

I’ve had 3 20-something’s live with me recently. My kids are 20 something’s. My schizophrenic son has more life skills than a lot of neurotypical young adults.

If they “clean” something it’s highly likely it’s not clean. If they wipe something down and it still looks dirty, they consider their job done.

The number of kids my kids knew growing up that had no responsibilities or chores because their parents were trying to “just let them be kids” had me worried, and were seeing the results now.

A friends 24 yo daughter moved back in. Doesn’t pay rent. Same thing-leaves a mess every time she does something and doesn’t clean it up. Overflowing trash. Piles of laundry in common areas. But she’s also got a 12 yo and I honestly don’t think he even makes his own ramen. No chores.

Nobody wants parents to be an abusive taskmaster, but there’s definitely a middle ground between that and not having essential life skills.