Open device policy = NO

7 months since DDAY. I am in a process of R with my partner and my non negotiable was delete all his pictures from your LIFE. that meant if the person is in picture with others I dont care. Scrub your google photos, Icloud or whatever and get it out. She initially denied doing so, saying you are saying its making you uncomfortable now, what if you prevent me from talking to someone in future? I have images of my ex boyfriends in my phone? I told her i dont care about her ex's. So I told her if she cannot do it, its the end. Thank you! We went NC for a week and she came around. She told me I will delete them. This was not easy as she said you are pushing me in a corner and i dont like it? What if deleting them wont make you feel safe and later you are still unhappy??
I told her, I am not pushing you in a corner. If you dont wanna do it, dont do it. I just told you I cannot be a part of this in that case. She cried and said I am nmot saying i dont wanna do it. She then threw a tantrum of I will go on your phone and delete all pictures of you with your GIRL- Friends, I told her, if you do that, you can leave my life and end this. Dont BS me!

Then she kept saying, you cannot check my phone or touch my devices ever. I dont wanna be in a marriage where you dont trust me. I told her we will have to rebuild trust so YES, I dont trust you! She somehow got mad at it which I dont understand why?

The way I found her cheating which went on for 2 years was, I read her diary because she was incredibly sad and used to cry randomly. We were not the best but not this bad! And she was very smart at hiding digital evidence so I did not find crap on her phone anyways ever.

I then tired to rethink this and now I am like, I dont understand the fuss over this? I used to have access to her devices anyways before this?

Any any of your parents said some stupid shit like this before?