Uh Here Goes Nothing

I'm in a long distance relationship that's been going for almost 2 years next February with a girl that I used to date and already have been through loads of experiences with back in 2012 but we were separated against our will due to outside our control complexities that caused me to have to move over 100 miles away. Everything is great when we get to interact but for convenience sake she's living with an ""Ex" Boyfriend"" 20 years older than she at his dad's house, there's been many times where she's told me that he physically abuses her and I personally have seen candid video of his aggression towards her and been on call during another altercation that took place. She claims that they are not in an intimate relationship but in all my life I've never experienced or heard of physical abuse where the two involved weren't regularly having intercourse. In my opinion you would have to be comfortable at a nearly intimate level to be able to lay your hands on someone so frequently out of anger.. idk any input to offer clarity or different perspective would be appreciated. Will answer any questions for more info the best I can.