AIO or that's just how normally guys think?

This is my first relationship and I don't know how it actually works. My boyfriend would eventually ignore me for hours or so or not see me for 3 days minimum if we had an argument, he said he wanted to be alone but would eventually prefer hanging out with his friends and constantly seeing me loses his spark or excitement to see me. Is that how guys cope with when they're feeling or avoiding serious conversation? Every argument we had he would eventually avoid cause it is giving him stress. The argument we usually have is about the way I talk he said, the way I talk to my friends and how he hates one certain behavior I have which is let say that I ask if he's okay when feeling down? My guy friends told me that guys prefer to protect their feelings and don't want to be as weak in front of someone they like but for me I openly told him that no matter what I still love him cause everytime something bad happen to his life, he would prefer to be alone and casting me aside in the process usually taking a week or so of not meeting and just chatting, unable to know what he's doing. It just makes me sad that idk it sounded like protecting their ego yet he is fine telling it to his friends even if they're a guy or a girl, I had to learn what happened to him through them. He also then said that he doesn't like hanging out with me cause I'm a girl. Is this what a relationship is?