Is this level of disconnect common

A couple of weeks ago husband (DX, medicated) and I had a convo where I checked in and asked how he was doing. He said he was feeling very secure in our relationship. (He is ADHD and CPTSD. His CPTSD stems from mainly his mother. This causes a lot of issues in our relationship). He's feeling secure because he is starting to separate out me and my actions from his triggers and realize that what he thought I was doing never happened.

During this same convo I said that I was struggling with feeling secure and didn't really. I also said it was possible that it was going to take more time to settle so I could trust the changes that are happening.

Fast forward to today. I'm struggling with how I feel about something and if I should feel this way. I told husband that I think part of why I'm having an issue is because I don't feel secure and now the man is shook. He thought I was good, that things were better. It didn't really hit him/sink in when I told him before. He didn't follow up about it or ask questions, he just assumed I was good now because I was acting okay.

This happens a lot. If I don't tell him every couple of days that "I still feel X way" then I no longer feel X way. Even though there is no discussion and I never told him it changed.

I don't want to tell him constantly that I don't feel secure or I don't feel connected in order for him to realize I still feel that way. It feels like I literally have to slap him upside the head constantly for him to stay on the same page. It's like we're not even in the same relationship.

Do y'all experience this?