The point of no contact

I joined this community to get support for no contact, feel encouraged by everyone's progress. But lately everyone is trying to do no contact just for their exes to come back and its actually pissing me off because that's not the point of no contact

This is for YOUR healing, not your exes healing to come back to you, not your own healing to make your ex come back either. YOU need to heal to figure yourself out, find who you are without them. If yall planned on being friends after some time of no contact or coparents then that's completely understandable and an entirely different situation.

But know that it's not healthy to expect someone to come back after they left you or you left them. One of yall made that choice and both of yall need to respect it. They are their own person and so are you. I get missing the connection and the person, but neither you or them "belong" to anyone. Life is too short to spend it trying to get someone to love you again after one of yall cut that connection. It's easier than you think to start over with someone new, just work on yourselves first. If they happen to come back, great, good for yall. But don't wait for that possibility to happen. You can't focus on them coming back while working on yourself, bc you need all your focus on YOUR life not theirs.