37/36 [MF4F] Germany

Everyone plays multiple roles in everyday life, and we switch between them more or less seamlessly. Some roles are necessary to function in society or simply to get by. Others exist for your pleasures and passions. And then there might be even more that you rarely embody - perhaps locked away in a cold, dark cellar of your heart. You are the sum of these facets.

You choose not to be your true self and refrain from sharing your views on many topics because it might harm essential relationships and thus threaten your wellbeing. You are afraid to speak about anything that could be even slightly controversial because this borderline society insists everything must be black or white, left or right, healthy or unhealthy and nothing in between.

Not us.

We want to be the environment where you replenish what you've used up when you smile at a clerk, file your tax return, do your chores, work at home, and handle all those tedious tasks that drain your energy. But to do that, you need to allow it - and you need to fit.

My (37M) preferences should be met by a woman who craves the role of a submissive partner and who rejects what I consider the crude ideas of third-wave feminism. A woman who acknowledges that women and men are different, have different strengths and weaknesses, and benefit from different kinds of care. The urge to provide comes from my sexually dominant nature and should be reciprocated by your willing submissiveness.

I want us to be somewhat equals in everyday life; I am not interested in mentally fragile people or those who consistently sabotage their own lives. In that regard I consider myself sapiosexual. I want to be proud to have you beside me, but I can't do that with non-achievers or the visionless (because I am genuinely willing to help you reach your life goals if you are missing some). I don’t see myself managing your everyday life. But this is entirely different in sexual contexts or on kinky nights out. In that context, our roles change: I become your dom and you become my sub. All of you belongs to me and I use it however I please and whenever I want and with whatever tools I want in a CNC-fashion.

Submissiveness must be earned; it is not a given. I will draw on my dominant nature to show you that I am worthy of your devotion and, in turn, unlock the commitment you have long desired to offer. Turning off your brain and letting your desires guide your body, mind, and self. You will please, you will worship, and you will be the happiest you have ever been.

Her (36F) preferences should be met by a woman that can’t get everything that she really needs from a man alone, just like herself. Being bisexual in a monogamous relationship with a man can be limiting and we want to shatter these chains to explore what life has to offer for all of us.

She is not so much into BDSM in general but does have some detailed kinks herself. She'd be best described as “devoted switchy vanilla”.

You should:

• read the above (obviously)
• be female between 25 and 35 years old (feel free to write anyway if you believe your mind and body fit even if the date on your birth certificate says slightly otherwise)
• be bisexual and happy to have a male and a female romantic partner exclusive to you and each other only in an exclusive polyamorous relationship
• desire to be submissive to a chosen dominant male partner
• love yourself or be ready to be taught that you are worthy of self-love (for some people tougher than you might think)
• understand that people can love or be friends with each other even if they disagree on essential topics or be willing to learn how this looks like
• have hobbies and passions and/or be open for new ones that we might share
• either have or be in the process of achieving an academic degree or a stable income that you are proud of (which we’d gladly support)
• have these long-term goals (if you decide we are a definite fit):
  • potential willingness to relocate (with all the support you’d need)
  • desire to form a family and take on (household) responsibilities, including financial contributions

What you’ll get:

• Your own dedicated room and bathroom, meals and reasonable support for everyday life/work for as long as you need, until you decide you want to pursue the long-term goals and become a family and share everything equally (the good and the bad) - until then you’re our esteemed guest
• Activities of all kinds that we can pursue together, the world is our oyster
• Two hearts that will beat for your success and happiness

About both:

• Academics and well-situated with stable jobs
• Started hitting the gym regularly and try to cook and eat healthy
• Open for new experiences and passions to share with each other

About 37M:

• Dark hair, blue eyes, about 185cm tall
• Passionate about technology, gaming, and anime/Japanese culture; generally curious about a wide range of topics
• Speaks German, Russian and English fluently (and some basic Japanese)
• Heterosexual

About 36F:

• Brown hair, green eyes, about 175cm tall
• Passionate about books (especially smut, heh) and anime/Japanese culture, likes cultural events
• Speaks German and English fluently
• Bisexual (less experience with women, though)

You should DM me if you can’t deny that something inside you is resonating with what you’ve read. Find out what you might miss out on, life’s too short.