why couldnt i have been born gay

if i was a gay bottom this wouldnt be an issue but i just had to be born into a system where the size of my dick is a determining factor of my value. some days i think about how my life couldve been if i wasnt born like this. why couldnt i have been born in a way where size isnt an issue. a system where this isnt a problem. a system where i could be free from judgement