33 [M4F] #Ohare - Looking for a LTR where where we think of each other as brother and sister.

For as long as I can remember I’ve always wanted a relationship like this. Or, said another way, I’ve always thought a good solid brother/ sister relationship was indistinguishable from healthy romantic relationship should be.

I don’t know why I’m like this: maybe it’s because I don’t have an actual sister, maybe it’s because I’m mentally ill (I don’t think I am), or im a pervert (I might me 😅). But I think it’s because of the closeness I want and expect in a romantic relationship that as I get older I realize it seems very few people actually want. It seems that people see each other/ relationships as sexual outlets, providers or status symbols before they see you as a partner and that’s never been what I’ve wanted.

When I see a strong healthy sibling relationship that to me has always looked like what a healthy romantic relationship should look like- even more so than most of the “healthy” romantic relationships I’ve seen. I love the idea that you end up romantically with the person who was there with you through-what ideally was- a stable and loving childhood and major life events and from that foundation become romantic/ life partners. That to me is an unparalleled level of stability and trust which is what successful romantic relationships are based on.

I’ve heard my whole life that “opposites attract” and that “familiarity breeds resentment” and you know what? I think if that’s a pretty sick way to view life and if that’s case with the person you’re with then you’re probably with the wrong person. I don’t like or need drama and if you’re the type of person who does please don’t message me.

I want a relationship where not only do we want to be around each other but don’t mind being around each other; where we’re so comfortable with each other that we could literally go about our routines for a week without speaking a word and that would be ok because we’re on the same wave length and we know everything is fine. Not saying I want to go that long without speaking just making a point. 🤷🏼‍♂️

I could go on but hopefully I’ve adequately summarized what I’m looking for and if it resonates with you please reach out.

About me: I’m 33, 6ft, about 250lbs but losing-down about 20lbs the last two months. My ultimate plan is to join the military in about a year; also I do want to look the best for my partner/ have the best sex life possible which I know physical fitness is an essential part of.

I have a graduate level education but had some investments that did well and so can afford to work a fairly menial job. I won’t sit here and say I’m necessarily rich yet but definitely more than financially stable. This gives me greater flexibility to workout, read/ study/ increase my knowledge, travel and yes meet a potential life partner. I do plan on using my degree in the military however.

Im politically conservative though not religious and require that you be and not be as well. I’ll touch on this further when talking about my requirements for you.

Sexually the only other “kink” I’d say i have is light bdsm/ CNC. I have a very sexually agressive/ dominant side I think I’d like to let out of its cage every once in a while with a trusted partner so hopefully you’re into that/ submissive. Other than that I just want a partner who wants to give/ receive enthusiastic/ consistent sex. You’ll see from other posts I am up to this point in my life a virgin by choice as a result of a huge pregnancy fear. Done everything but intercourse however I had a vasectomy a year ago so not a problem now. Will of course get it reversed when/ if we decide we want children. Last thing I’ll say is I’m open to DISCUSSING threesomes/ orgies once we have a solid foundation.

About you: Please be white or Hispanic, 18-25 and in the United States or Canada. I’m fairly flexible on looks if you actually share my brother/ sister mentality; I’d just ask you be under 200lbs and if you are overweight have a plan like me to lose it. My last serious relationship was with a woman overseas and that was one of the main reasons it didn’t work out. I’ll make an exception for and at least consider/ talk to women in the United Kingdom or Switzerland for personal reasons but even then it’s unlikely I’d agree to a relationship.

I do ideally want children but not for another 5-7 years which is why I’m hesitant to start a relationship with a woman over 25. Just like with the UK and Switzerland I might make an exception for you if you’re 26/27 and meet all of my other requirements. My ideal age range is 22-23.

As I said earlier in my post my ideal relationship would be one where we grew up together and knew each other our entire lives. Obviously we haven’t, so in my mind the next best thing is that we were raised under similar circumstances. I was raised in a conservative/ Christian environment that- while not perfect- was actually pretty stable and loving. As I said before I am no longer religious; while I admire and respect the Christian ethos and have no problem with Christianity/ the idea of God I believe that there are moral and rational issues with Christianity at its foundation. I’m happy to discuss these in depth at a later time. I actually don’t mind being part of a church community/ sending our kids to church/ Christian school but ultimately I’m looking for a woman who is politically and socially conservative, was raised in a religious environment but is not religious/ has reached the same conclusions I have. I know this is a tall order but then again so is seeking out a woman who sees the benefit of seeing each other as brother and sister.

Finally I want to say this because it was an issue in my last relationship: I am not looking to be your provider/ status symbol before I’m your partner. I don’t really plan on ever getting married as I don’t want to open up myself to financial ruin in a divorce. Now let me be clear: I did mean it when I said I was financially stable and I would never ask a woman to support me financially. In addition, I have no problem being my partner’s financial safety net. For example let’s say you lost your job/ health insurance and you needed me to support you while you looked for another job/ had to go on my health insurance through my job- that’s absolutely no problem and I’d be happy to do it. However in the normal course of things I’d expect you to contribute to the household at least 20-30% just so I know you’re there for me/ is primarily; that again you’re there to be my partner not my dependent. If you’re embarrassed by the fact I essentially work a retail job or I’m not “ambitious” enough we’re not going to work. Again, there are other things I want to and plan on doing with my life but those things shouldn’t be the primary reason you should want to be with me. My character, intellect, and the love/ stability we can provide one another should be enough.

I know this is a lot and I’m not trying to overwhelm you I’m just trying to be precise and thorough about what I’m looking for. To filter out those who are not serious- and to keep me from spending too much time on reddit- I’ll be deleting the app and won’t get back on until Friday around 6pm. If interested and serious please respond with age and what state you’re in and be ready to text/ talk over voice for about an hour at that time.

As I said I do travel quite a bit and it’s easy for me to travel anywhere for a day trip if we decided we had potential and wanted to meet up in person. I’m not looking to rush into anything but would like to use the time we have efficiently. If this post is up I’m still looking.