How do I stop feeling guilty about spending on our wedding?

Hi everyone! Me and my fiance are currently planning our wedding and I can't help but feel guilty about it.. Especially when he makes remarks about how much cheaper our other friends spent on their wedding compared to how much we are planning to spend. He would make remarks about how our other friend did her own florals, went for a cheaper venue, didn't have a ceremony and only reception, and pretty much tried to really save overall. He mentioned that they spent around 15k totally on their wedding by having DIY and chose cheaper routes ( Also to note that their wedding was 3 years ago. Everything is just much more expensive now) Currently, we are looking at around 50k for 75-80 people. We live in HCOL and after searching around, this price is pretty average.. some might even say.. its in the lower end of wedding costs these days. ( horrifying, I know)

While it's great that she was able to do all of this herself and save money, I can't help but feel bad and guilty about ours. It drains the excitement of wedding planning, cause now I just feel bad and guilty about it. Now, Im second guessing myself that maybe, we shouldve just eloped. I also want to say that.. his aunt is donating 35k and my mom is donating 20k.. so its not even our money, but he is making me feel bad with his remarks.. about how we couldve saved that money instead and put into down payment for a house.. However, I asked him before if he thinks his aunt wouldve given us that money if we didnt have a wedding and he said.. probably not.. So I thought it was fine to actually spend it on our wedding. I then mentioned.. since they are donating so much.. they're probably expecting a nice wedding but he said.. they wouldve been okay with a smaller wedding and put some of the donation towards downpayment for a house or something ... I dont know.. I just have been feeling heavy about this that it makes me cry.

Since we already signed the contract with our venue... its too late to back out now. I just dont know how to navigate the emotions im feeling about having the wedding of my dreams without feeling so guilty about it.