Hard every time I realize it’s not getting better…

I’m sure this is a repeat of many posts, reworded…

I feel trapped, sad, and unsure. I have one parent and they are extremely obsessed with work when they could retire but won’t and seem like they must exhaust themselves rather than ever sit still or be home and relax. Fantasize about living with me now that they are older and won’t seek therapy, has severe ptsd and living in survival mode for my whole life. Does not try to protect themselves from unsafe people that they try to “rescue” bc they must play the martyr above all else. I have moments with them where they seem “normal” and are great to be around. Seconds later, the most insane, irrational things come out that they have been hiding.

I feel like I have no family, most of my family have severe mental illness that is untreated. How are we supposed to cope? It’s like we either have to compromise boundaries or have no parental relationship. I’m just exhausted.