Loved her enough to let go

Been 4 months since I broke up with her. We still sometimes randomly text every 2-3 weeks but nothing progressive. The feelings and attachment are still there even if we don't talk. We wanted to get back together but dont cause we know we will hurt eachother more if we break up again. I love sex but thats not why I go on dates and ask women out. I want something real and she was the closest thing to my ideal woman. Goofy, funny, played roblox, 10/10 in my eyes, was down to do anything.

How did you all learn to let go and love again?