am i the asshole for not liking my bf as much as he likes me?

throw away acct. this one’s a long read. met this guy at a bar in the summer. I’m F24, he’s M30. we hung out a lot and had a talking phase for a month before he asked me out. i said yes of course, but sometimes i’m questioning if that was the right decision. my thoughts: -the age gap doesn’t bother me, but for some reason I feel as if he’s trying to fast track this relationship to get to the next stage of life- marriage, buying a house, kids, etc- only bc his friends are either engaged/ already married/ signing to buy their first house soon. he was so happy to have me meet his dad about a week after we became official, and i’ve met all of his friends before we had a title as well. he even made a snarky remark about how i hadn’t introduced him yet to my parents/ family, and how “i don’t want to be dating you for 6 months and not meet your parents. then i’ll feel some type of way”. (now- i guess i get his point, but this also felt very vaguely threatening. idk). he gave me a key to his apartment in like week three of our talking phase, didn’t even stop to ask how i felt about it. -i feel that he often dances on that like between cute and creepy obsession. i am a curvy woman, so often other men will glance at me, and he makes jokes about beating them up just for even breathing in my direction. i always laugh awkwardly bc i can’t tell if he’s joking or being dead serious.

• he also made many many many remarks about how im “the love of his life” and how ill “make such a good wife” and “im going to marry you”. now, for some people, these comments would make them glow with happiness. but to me, it feels like he’s planning an entire life for us without filling me in. how does he feel so sure and strongly about me being “the love of his life” only 1.5 months of dating? feels strange. it feels manipulative. -during intimate moments, he makes me promise him that i’m “his forever and ever” and make me swear up and down that i “better not be talking to nobody else” and how i “better not be sleeping with anybody else”. these comments make me so uncomfortable that my stomach churns and my palms burn hot and clammy.
• he makes baby jokes all the time. saying things like “i’m so glad im choosing to have kids with you” or the other day, it was chilly so i was wearing black long sleeve T-shirt w blue jeans; he said “that looks like a good future mom outfit”. (for reference, im still in college working towards my degree with about a year left. i work part time and still live at home bc wtf is this economy rn. POINT BEING- i am in absolutely no position for a child right now. i have desires for them in the future, but not right now). i had to tell him the other day that i dont like those remarks, as they kinda weird me out. it’s like he has a br33ding k1nk or something. i feel so off knowing that he’d be so happy to knock me up but doesn’t even know me well enough yet to read my facial expression. for other context, he’s very sweet and takes care of me. he never lets me pay when the bill is dropped off at the table, orders, pays for and goes and gets my coffee to bring it to me each morning, buys me 2 dozens roses once or twice a week. he buys me the expensive makeup and jewelry that i’m always looking at, and is even trying to buy me the new apple watch for my bday next month as my gift. i had planned to buy it myself and was just asking him questions about how it works as he owns one. —> in the past, i have been in a toxic, abusive and controlling relationship. i have long since seemed therapy to work on myself, but, i feel like i can’t help but notice some commonalities between this relationship and my previous/ traumatizing one. i am a bit confused on if these are actually things in common (is him buying all this stuff a form of manipulation?) is real or am i just still so limited due to my prior relationship? idk. he’s respectful and very nice. but i feel off. something here feels off. maybe i’m not looking at the big picture? help me out here, what are your thoughts ?