Is there a problem if I don’t want to go my wife’s friends bday party?

My wife and I have a two year old and herfriend I met at our wedding, at her daughter’s shower, and I think one time at another one of her bday party.

Each of those times there was a lot of people and I have a hard time forming a connection when there’s a lot of people. When I wanted her to meet my best friend it was just the 3 of us. This way it was easier for my friend and wife to talk.

The other reason is her friend drinks or used to drink since she got her license revoked because of her DUIs or is easing up on the alcohol which makes me uncomfortable bringing my baby to that type of party because I don’t think it’ll be child friendly and I think my wife is gonna downplay that and pretend it’ll be fun for him.

When she asked me I said no I don’t want to go but I can watch our baby and you go but she was hinting that I come with her and bring our baby but I know that it’ll be me babysitting while she catches up with her friend.

I remember one time she said to me that were married and married couple are supposed to do things together. We do do things together, I just don’t want to be stuck at that party.