My ex cheated on me......with 38 females.

Hello all, I hope you enjoy my situation as this happened 3 years ago and I feel am in the place to spill this drama cux there is ALOT.

My bf at the time who we will call B 16M and me 17f went to the same school and while I was a junior and he was a sophomore he seemed truly sweet and ATM I was into country guys....he fit that perfectly as I am a southern girl myself my mom is from Texas and my dad from Tennessee and though I was born and raised in good Ole Michigan....you wouldn't be able to guess it.

Anyways back to the situation, in our friend group there was 2 of his exs one we will call D 16f and the other we will call L 18f. I was friends with L...to an extent and had been for going on 4 years though D I knew nothing about. Before dating him I had no idea that L had been with him as he was a small fling and they're relationship didn't last ling.......she cheated with his best friend which was another reason her and I had always been a bit distance friend wise as I knew to an extent she wasn't to be trusted. When finding this out tho into our relationship I had already build trust with him so it was all good but I knew to keep her at a distance of us and our relationship and he understood this as well. With F though I didn't know too much but she was known for being a bad stealer and though I gave her the Benefit of the doubt, there were several times I watch her try to flirt with B in which he would ignore her or walk away once he realized what she was doing. With being in the same friend ground though there was an extent that they would be ther wand even if distanced not completely cut out would they be.

For context though within the first week when we were dating 2 girls went up to me and said he asked for nudes. While many of you may say that was a clear sign he was cheating and I was stupid for cutting it off there. I had never been Ina proper relationship and before then my first one lasted a month and he broke uo with my on valentine's day. As well as one of the girls who told me had liked him and started drama with me through text which I had blocked her cuz what even. She had said I stole him from her and when I asked her for proof that he asked she said she didn't have any and further more couldn't even show me proof she had him added....mine you this will make sense later why not.

Fast forward to 6 month in our relationship and I thought we had guild something great. During this we had made memories and he had come over for my birthday ( mind you when we first started dating he was 15 and I was 16) so it was ,y 17th and he had surprised me at my house when I opened my bedroom door with gifts and a hug. A week before mine it had been his as my day is on 13th of December while his is the 4th of December and we had gone bowling. Originally he asnt able to go as there was a family get together planned and it would be family he never gets to see as they live in Tennessee and though I was sad, I understood. Back to the end of the 6 months though, I was at church my B's little sister 14f, L and 2 of my other friends. I enjoyed hanging out with them all and I had gotten close to B's sister, it ws like she was my own. While chilling outside the sanctuary as we have a coffee shop in our church as well as a lounge spot where you can listen from outside, L had gotten a reply to her story from B and it was where you send emoji to describe how you feel about the person who puts it up. B had put the emoji that said he thought she was pretty. L showed me as I had been sitting next to her and was watching something with her anyways on her phone. At first she acted all shocked but I felt a weird feeling....like it wasn't the first time it happened but I had no proof and wanted to believe I was overthinking.

Later when B came to church I had a one on one condo with him and told him how it made me uncomfortable and that I understand if maybe he didn't see how that isn't okay but that he is in a relationship with me and going out of ur way to do that towards another females gives the wrong impression and especially not an ex. He understood and had apologized but after that I felt myself grow distant as I was trying to build the trust again but it was extremely hard. I've always have problems with people breaking my trust so for that to happen it made ti so much worse as I thought I could trust him with it all.

Going into month 8 we had moved on somewhat and though I kept having the distrust to an extent I was pushing to make it better. One day I give him ym Snapchat account as one of my other friends said it would build trust and is like a mile stone, I've never heard of that but did it and said I just wanted to show him how muchi am all in for our relationship. He said thank you and that it meant alot but also that he can't sign out of his account as it had a bug and wouldn't let him back in as it happened in the passed and he had to make a whole new account. I trusted him and more so said maybe i could help which he declined and a I'd it was okay. I asked him if that meant I couldn't go on his account and he said no as it would sign him out on his phone and I said I was sorry for the inconvenience in the account but asked if I could use his phone ever to at least take photos of us together at school. He said it ws fine and I had done so, I never thought to go and sign out....though later I would wish I had.

A week before valentine's day B and a few of our friends including L were going Togo to the bowling alley as we all enjoyed it and it was also where his bowling team was at so he could also practice. I was originally go but found out later I had family event but when it wax canceled I told him I would be able to come along and how I couldn't wait to see him there. When he opened the message, he left my on read and as I waited I went through people's stories. On L's story she had posted couple goals and on it was B driving a cart in Walmart with her in it while his best friend...the she cheated on him with was driving his gf. I was shocked and told him I wasn't comfortable with this and further more that I wasn't okay doing it behind my back. He said it wasn't like that and that he just didn't want drama which I replied with no he just didn't want to get caught.

After such he said L was spending the night with his little sister....whichnis a bit odd cuz she doesn't rlly like her an further more during this I was otp with her and she said L was in his room. Her, B and his best friend were goofing off doing dumb s*** ig. I messaged him that there wS no way he was really gonna not tell me and that it want okay....he messaged back that we needed a break. For some r3ason I let it fly that night and I guess I was just trying to fight for the relationship...even though deep down I knew there wasn't anything to fight. The next fay I told him I was done and if he xouldnt respect my boundaries it is clear he also wasn't actually looking for a real one at least not a committed one. He said he was sorry and said don't go which I replied that I would put his goodies in his locker. I should have kept them...could have at least sold them and gotten something out of that relationship as the next week would be he'll.

The following Monday as I walked into school I was trying to keep it together as I put his hoodies in his locker, D walked up to me and hugged me in which I broke down. I've never been the person to cry and non of my friends had ever seen my shed a tear, not once so for me to do so was...definitely a sign I was not okay 😅 She told me she was passed at Band further more would kick his a**. She also told me that another one of our friends had sent to and with him that night before...we will called her M 15f. I knew her and was not close but meverthoyght much as she liked a different guy in the group. When finding that out it just broke me more. Later that day m told me was sorry and her excuse was she ws cross faded as well as B....doesn't make it right though...clearly. she apologized but I wasn't even there, it was numbness at that point. Further more another girl we will call K 14f told me that he had asked her for nudes but she said no and later found out we had been dating....she didn't tell me though cuz she thought I seemed happy and she didn't wanna be the one to ruin it. When she showed me the chats...that's when it got worse.

He had another account and even more so everyone knew about it except me and again they're e cases were that they saw me happy and have never seen me that much...didn't wanna ruin it. Context to this I had asked everyone at lunch if they knew about it and I got...silence before any if them finally responded. I also found out K had access to this account and had gone on it to SOS times do his streaks "yay such a good friend ☠️". She went on it with me ans there were about 38 girls on it and even worse....I found D and L on there and read the not okay chats. There was also abt 10 other girls from my school and who I had several classes with who had congratulations our relationship and said how cute we had been at the winter dance together. I didn't know what to do except feel betrayed, all my friends or so I thought had keoted it from me saying how it was to keep me safe but in turn just made it worse.

When confronting him he said he did it also cuz I wouldn't have s** with him as I told him I wanted to wait till we had been dating for at least 10 months as I wanted to make sure he as in it for the long hall and also in general told him I just wanted to feel comfortable and it to be meanignful when we did reach that step bht because io he is a dude and i guess to an extent feelinf like maybe it wasnt fair on him when or if he ever asked for nudes from me I would sometimes say yes but kept my face out of view...when I said no though I found out he would go on the other account to get nudes saying it was only I wasn't a good gf to him. BecUae of all of thianhe said he needed to have s** and it wasn't fair me making him wait, mind you when we had spoken about it he was fine and said it was perfectly okay and he respected me for setting those boundaries. Mind you all of this happened in one week so yeah yikes.

By that Friday though all of them were bulling me and ,making fun of me for being "so stupid and pathetic" and saying how could I have thought he would ever love me. I was done and within the following 2 weeks my grades I fallen off, I was failing everything, kept skipping class as during it all I was breaking down and was in all honestly getting high off my mind just to numb the emotions. By the 3rd I left the school and went to an online school as i couldn't stand the constant bullying and put downs for people I used to call friends. As well as the second week B had started dating D and more so had gone to the valentine's dance with one another.

The months to follow were full of helplessness and them making fake account or TikToka putting me down and shaming me for not having s** with him as well as not knowing how he wa cheating. I couldn't wrap my head around ti as there were so, any good memories and it sounds sad but even going into shops like Walmart I broke down as he ahd gone shopping with me and my family just to have time with me but now everything seemed ranted that I did.....even going to church.

3 years later though my mental health is so much better, I graduated that year early... whole year early despite the things that happened. I am engaged to my handsome English man and though we are long distance e we are ,voing into our apartment coming early next year and getting married in July of next as well. He has been truly the kindest caring, an ever and has stood by me throughout some many things and during each and ever visit just melted me along with his family as his 2 little brothers are th sweetest ever.

I hope you enjoyed the drama and tea, sorry about the long story.