how do we get the love back? (24f + 23m)

throw away account cos he does be on here. me and my bf have been together nearly 3 years and lived together 1 and a half years. we have a life together and we’re happy, but lately it feels like somethings missing or somethings flipped and i’m not sure if it’s him or me or both. i think a big part to play in this is some issues i’ve been having over the last nearly 2 years with some rough side effects from the contraceptive pill that really effected my life, including our sex life. i’m off the pill now nearly 2 weeks and trying to get my head and hormones back in check but i feel like that’s why idk if im looking too much into all this or not. but the spark is gone, the fun is gone, it’s so stagnant. like don’t get me wrong we have fun and we laugh, but majority of our time together is spent watching tv or sitting on our phones. there’s no romance, no dates, no excitement, no cute surprises no matter how much i try or hint at it, no sweet messages or words, i can’t remember the last time he’s complimented me other than when im purposely done up, it’s like im fucking my friend? and i suppose there’s that too, i’d feel like that if we were fucking, which were not. this does stem back to the issues i’ve had with contraception, but he doesn’t even try. he doesn’t ask, ever. he doesn’t initiate, ever. we’ve discussed this in the past and he’s expressed that sex is not something he prioritises. and it’s not like we aren’t a sexual relationship. there was periods of time we were fucking everyday, but i literally feel like im just living with my friend now. im weening off the hormones of the pill and it’s definitely not that i don’t want to, i do, but it’s so hard to want it with him when i feel so disconnected from him even when we are alone together. this IS something i plan on discussing with him, i get nervous discussing my emotions and shit so i’m building to that and will do that, but i suppose really what im looking for is advise and tips on how to reignite that spark, emotionally and sexually, after we have that talk? the effort needs to come from both of us, we love each other and i believe we both want this to work so we both gotta make it work i just don’t really know where to go from here. ANY advise is welcome!!!

TLDR; my bf and i have lost our spark completely, emotionally and sexually, and i’d love some tips on how to work on regaining that