My housemate is a nightmare.

I am "at war" with my house mate. He is an emotionally manipulative person, his backstory is full of inconsistencies. They all seem to be designed to influence people by either sympathy or intimidation. He is shorter than me but he has more muscle mass so he is always trying to utilise this allusively to control me. He has a flying monkey within the household who is short, weak and cowardly, but they are seemingly evil as well. They constantly allude to being violent towards me and I am struggling to cope.

I was doing well at first, I asserted my boundaries and did almost everything right. I did manage to psychologically corner the bloke and now I fear for my safety, because he is saying some pretty threatening things. He is grooming his subordinate as well, there seems to be trauma bond at work, but the flying monkey is not innocent. His subordinate started screaming violent fantasies this morning in the kitchen, then they started to have a really violent and strange conversation on the house group chat.

The charity that owns this house did step in about the rule breaking and they seee the threatening behaviour but they can't do anything about it because he isn't breaking the law and he is following the rules now that I have reported him. He's obsessed with control and he isn't going to give up, he is just biding his time. He told his crony that he should spray me with a fire extinguisher because it will suffocate, burn and kill me. The other fucker is so damn naïve and easy to influence that I am scared he is actually going to do it.

I am getting moved on Tuesday, but I don't know if I can take it. I was holding up really well before, but my emotional problems are coming back. I started beta blockers but they are not effective enough to make me feel safe. I feel so fucking bad right now, even though I feel dissociated mentally I still feel the bubbling anxiety underneath.

Posted Oct 10, 2025, 7:19 PM UTC

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