He catfished me, but i still stayed

TL;DR! He catfished me, but i still stayed

Hi so back in february 2025 i made a kinda? secret tik tok account so i could post anything i wanted without anyone(that knows me) knowing. Not long after, a boy looked on my profile and because i wanted to get my account up i followed him and he followed me back.

He messaged me right away and we started chatting for a bit and he asked for my instagram. I didnt want to give it to him for obvious reasons and after that i saw that we were both from the same country(kinda). After some hours he asked again for my instagram so i gave in and gave it to him.

We followed each other and he immediately add me to his close friends. I looked on his account and i saw that he had a highlight on his CF with, i would say, a very conventionally attractive guy, that had a sense of style and he was kinda aesthetically pleasing. Tbh I knew from the start that the boy from his highlights wasn’t him but i thought: Man wtv he is just someone from the internet, who cares. The same night he messaged me on instagram and we started to talk about casual things, like what you like to do, how old are you, what are your hobbies, etc. He told me that he was from Greece (he moved there from our country, Spain, when he was in middle school).

After i think a day or two things took a really wrong turn and long story short he asked me for nudes. I made fun of him, and i told him im not sending him nothing so he blocked me. But, for some reason, i was really curious about him so i messaged him again on tik tok cause he didn’t block me there. He answered me and i asked him why did he block me but he never really gave me a definite answer.Then we spoke some more and i thought hmm i should be more direct. So i told him that there’s no way that the guy from his highlights was him, but he denied it , saying that, that was in fact him and that im crazy for thinking such a thing. I brushed it off.

I know it sounds very crazy but i still kept speaking with him (in all this time he was still asking for nudes btw). After some while he unblocked me on instagram. I don’t like to admit but i got atached to him. I dont really know why. He was the first boy i ever spoke to and for many times he felt like an escape from my boring life.

It was the start of april when it got bad. He would not speak to me anymore and whenever he did he was either mean or very dry, things that made me really sad cause i was always exited to speak with him. So i made a fake account to see if he was speaking to anyone else. On this fake account he was the one chasing me. Like he would message me daily to ask: Wyd, Wyd, Wyd…. One thing i didnt mention its the fact that on my real account we didnt follow each other anymore, so i used the fake one to see what he was posting( he had a private account) Back to my real account, one day he told me that if dont send him what he wanted he would stop texting me. So guess what, me being desperate not to lose him, i actually did what he wanted. After that he came back to his normal self kinda, but somewhere in middle of april it got bad again and he left me on delivered for 3 days. In those 3 days he spoke with me on my other account and the breaking point for me was when he started asking for photos. So i blocked him, on both of my accounts.

One thing about me, im really petty. So i used my detective skills to find some of his friends from his followers and i messaged 2 of them on the fake account that i made.I told them about what he was doing. About the catfishing and the photos he wanted so bad. They showed me a picture of him from 2022 cause they didnt have recent photos. They were both from Spain. What can i say he was in fact not so pretty😞. But i really didnt care about his looks. I was really hurt that he lied to me and that he couldn’t be honest with me even though i knew the truth from the start.

I blocked him in april, but i couldn’t stip thinking about him so in may i unblocked him and messaged him again. I told him about the fact that i knew he catfished me, but i didnt tell him about the fake account that i made. This time he seemed more interested in me. In june, he would message me daily, he would ask things about me, trying to get to know me, something that he never did in the past. It felt really good seeing him beeing interested in me. This time he also didnt ask for nudes. But at the end of june, he blocked me. I was really confused and i messaged him on tik tok to understand why. He told me that the previous night an account messaged him and he thought that was me. I didnt really get it nor do i get it now but wtv. On my birthday i remember i waited all day for a message from him or atleast a, idk, like a sign or something. I got really disappointed and sad cause i thought this time was different.

After this we started speaking again by the end of july. It was okish, but not really. I remeber one time i asked him: Hey do you wanna play a videogame with me? and he didnt give me a definite answer, like he left me hanging and in that moment all the shitty things he did really build up inside my mind and i told him if he doesn’t wanna speak with me then to tell me so i can leave him alone. After this he immediately became more responsive but not for long.

In august i blocked him again because he was so uninterested and dry that it pissed me off, but after a week he messaged me asking why i blocked him and after that he called me so we could play that game i told him about. I again though that hmm this time is definitely different, but i didnt learn shit so in september i had a really serious conversation( more from my part) with him and we stopped speaking.

I know, this story is very dumb and i should have never messaged him again after he blocked me the first time, but as i said i cant get him out of my mind and i dont really know what to do. Im really aware of all the things he did and of all the things i did but sometimes i cant get over what happened between us. Theres a lot more to the story to tell but it would be really boring and really long.