8 month fetopsy report

So I'm just going to preface that I'm completely irate right now and may not make much sense but I really need to talk about this

Around 8 months ago my wife and I lost our child due to a miscarriage. This was our first pregnancy and it was an obviously traumatizing event as we were trying for a long time and were really hopeful for this.

Her medical team was incredible throughout the process and the grieving, I honestly don't know how we would've done without them.

Still, only this week did the fetopsy result come back. 8 months later?! That can't be typical. We had just gone through and are still going through our mourning process and now we have to re-live the entire thing after 8 months?!

And my incredible wife is handling it so well but that makes me even more mad because she shouldn't have to be re-living it this way.

I expressed my frustrations with her and she agrees but doesn't want to make a stink about it because of how much we like our medical team. And she's right and I won't.

But this can't be normal?! Is there any recourse or anonymous reporting for things like this? Or any way to let them know that that's not ok at all in a way that doesn't burn our bridge with them?