AITA For being upset/hurt that my wife is ashamed of our home and the things I’ve built?

I’m late 40's, married nearly 25 years, and I’ve been the primary breadwinner for most of our marriage. I built our financial foundation by making smart choices with investments, purchasing homes that could be fixed up and rented out, utilizing used but respectable cars, and generally setting a path for long-term stability that my wife followed. She contributed at times, working part-time here and there, but the bulk of the earnings, the career assignments, and the planning for the future were mine.

I didn’t chase flashy things. I grew up fixing things with my dad, so I bought used cars, fixed them, avoided depreciation, and kept tools and equipment that could be used or repurposed. I live by the principle that knowledge, skills, and carefully chosen assets are worth far more than brand-new items that lose value immediately.

To give some perspective, while raising a large family on largely a single income, we were millionaires in our early 30s, multi-millionaires by our late 30s, and by our early 40s, our net worth was approaching $3.5 million. Over the last few years, we haven't been on the same page, I've lost some of my drive to pursue opportunities because of my perceived lack of support, and our net worth has stagnated and slightly dipped.

Last night while talking to our daughter, she went on about how ashamed she feels of our home and property, saying she can’t host people because she feels embarrassed by "junk and crap" I’ve accumulated, including tools, older cars, and equipment in my workshop. But those things aren’t junk to me. They are assets I’ve learned from, investments in self-sufficiency, and a way to protect our wealth. I can sell them if needed and generate more than I paid.She also mentioned that her family has criticized her/us about it but they've never said it to my face.....while at the same time asking for my help to fix some of their things.

The frustrating part is that she complains but doesn’t take action to improve the house or property herself, and seems to actively influence our now HS aged children not to do outside chores. She expects me to do all the work and I was pushing back but after hearing that lat night, I'm genuinely done trying to appease someone who doesn’t appreciate the sacrifices and planning it took to build what we have. We're not rich, but we are comfortable, and to hear how unappreciative she is of our situation, and even dismissive of the effort it took to accumulate the knowledge I have about vehicles, real estate, etc. was, and I'm not trying not to be overly dramatic, nearly heartbreaking. If the roles were reversed, I'd be proud of my wife for having that kind of drive....

Anyway, AITA for stopping my home improvement plans/all plans that use my learned skills, and instead focus on investing so I can eventually "buy" her out of our shared assets? Then I’ll start being active with them again, make improvements, and sell on my terms, working for myself, not someone unappreciative.