Cis guys are throwing me off😭

For context: I'm 1 year on T gel and just barely growing more than just peach fuzz on my face. I'm usually surrounded by cis guys so I end up getting most of my advice and feedback from them.

But for some reason the two main guys I listen to the most (my fiance and a good friend of mine) are so hot and cold when it comes to things I like/things I do to pass-

I bring up facial hair because it's kind of a big thing for me since I have such a round and babyish face. Everytime I think I see progress I'd ask my fiance for thoughts, but he usually dismisses it as just barely being noticeable under certain circumstances. (Fair) But just yesterday while hanging out with my friend after not seeing each other for a bit he immediately clocks my side burns and throws me off guard.

To be fair both of these guys are hispanic and as a mixed guy these are "trying" times but this feedback that I get from them whether good or bad kind of stunts my growth because it leaves me perplexed.

Like yeah I wanna believe I've got something good going so I can stop telling myself to use an eyebrow pencil to darker my mustache and stuff but then I get spun around and told that unless you're like staring contest distance from me you wouldn't notice a thing😮‍💨 I know it's the small things that count but holy hell.

(At least they can both agree that my love for sanrio and comfort games would definitely shoot me in the foot but like 🧍‍♂️respectfully hop off.)