I finally figured out why "nice guys" on dating apps have no spark (and it's not what you think)

I was stuck in the endless Hinge penpal game for 2 years. Great conversations, zero chemistry when we met. Then I realized something about the guys who felt "nice but boring." They were approval-seeking, not genuinely nice. Here's the difference: Approval-Seeking "Nice" Guy: - Over-compliments constantly - Agrees with everything you say - "Whatever you want!" to every question - Texts immediately, always available - Afraid to disagree or show personality Genuinely High-Value Nice Guy: - Compliments authentically, not desperately - Has opinions (even if different from yours) - Makes suggestions and plans - Has his own life/schedule - Comfortable being himself The "no spark" you feel? It's because approval-seeking guys have no frame. They're shape-shifters trying to be whatever they think you want. High-value men are comfortable being themselves, even if it risks you not liking them. Once I understood this, I stopped wasting time on "nice guys with no spark" and started attracting men with actual confidence. Anyone else notice this pattern?