Im going to a doctor for mental health issues

I 25(F) has only ever lived with silent panic attacks and anger outbursts since I was around 14-15. I was diagnosed as a child as ADD but every thing is getting progressively worst. My outbursts are lasting longer I shut down and I black out and say stuff I don’t mean out of anger. It’s taken a toll on my relationship because it was told to me none of that was not how normal people processes emotions and it shouldn’t last for an extended period. And I can stay happy for about a week and a half before the spiraling happens. I need ask my doctor about it but I don’t know what to ask for? I have a list of symptoms my spouse has wrote down for me on my notes. Do I just read that and just see what her recommendation is? Do I ask for a mood stabilizer? What would be done?