Frenum dilemma

I need some help from anyone who has experience with a frenum piercing. I got 2 barbells placed on July 15(just over 3 months prior to posting). The healing has gone well. Sex was difficult at first(as expected). It has gotten better. But I’m still noticing that I have to be extra cautious and make slower movements. It’s fine most of the time. My wife says she loves the way they feel which makes me want to stick it out. They’re not excruciating, but sometimes they do cause just enough discomfort to take me out of the moment. Am I having unrealistic expectations to think that they shouldn’t still be tender like this? Should I just stick it out knowing that eventually, I will be able to have sex free of discomfort eventually? Last night I was very close to just taking them out and retiring them. Sex is a VERY important part of my life and my marriage, and if I’ll never be able to enjoy sex the same again, then ai don’t know if it’s worth it. Please help!