Desi ex muslims how did you all draw boundaries with your family.

I have toxic yet loving parents ,I have openly told them that I wont practise islam anymore. My parents are both practising as per their convenience kind. Yet they say this is a phase you'll outgrow. Learning how misogynistic and toxic this religion is I had decided to leave.Currently im in unemployment phase,but hopefully soon i hope it ends. I'm 25F and been getting rishtas .I have no hope for the guy to be understanding and my dad wouldn't agree to mentioning I'm non practicing .So far I have rejected all the rishtas because they're way older, or they aren't physically appealing to me or sense they come from very conservative background. My dating life hasn't been great so I'm really scared to be exploring again. I dont want my parents or relatives to dictate how i dress or live. Currently i live with them so i dress modestly but previously i was living on my own for 2 years and i dressed up how ever i wanted to and in whatever ways that made me feel pretty. There was an instance were somebody sent my cousin a picture of me from dating app in which wore a short dress and it was off shoulder kind. She was flabbergasted and so were my parents and I had to convince mom that was my old picture (My parents had found out about my dual life because of some asshole relatives who snitched) . Once i get a job i want to distance myself ,and only be on hi bye terms with my parents ,I also wanna overcome the fear of posting myself in such pretty outfits.

TLDR: A sister seeking help to draw boundaries with her fam who try to dictate her lifestyle