are my expectations for my partner unreasonable?

i (24f) often get put in a bad mood by my girlfriend because she is terrible at communicating with me when i’m being very autistic about things.

for example, i have a gig tomorrow and we’ve not seen each other for almost a week now, when we usually see each other almost every day. she’s been staying at home because she’s been ill and i don’t want to get ill for my gig. i really want to see her so i rang her today and said do you wanna come over, but while we were on the phone she said she’s ’really sick’.

i thought she’d be getting better by now, so i kept asking her what ‘really sick’ entails, and she said i’m not gonna explain all my symptoms to you i’m not a GP. she then kept saying she can’t make a decision for me. i know that it’s my decision but she knows how hard it is for me to make decisions and conceptualise something like how ill someone is, and it felt like she just wasn’t helping and was getting annoyed and frustrated with me.

i feel really bad because whenever this happens it’s like this dark cloud comes over my head and i feel so frustrated and misunderstood and it makes me want to lash out and get annoyed at her :( i know my reaction isn’t good but are my expectations unreasonable?? all i wanted was for her to say something like ‘i don’t think you’d be able to do your gig tomorrow if you felt as sick as me so i’ll stay home’ or something :/ i feel like she’s not understanding with my autism