So my Mom never let me return to my childhood home. Family can’t fathom why I’m no contact.

So I’m sure many of us had final straws with family especially the narcissist family members. So the final straws for me was my mom’s bad attitude at my son’s first birthday party. A party she originally didn’t even want to go to. She wanted to be there for my brother and his wife who were about to have a second baby. It wasn’t even in the same week. My mom had money but usually doesn’t like spending any money on me. But for my brother and his wife she usually goes whatever state they’re living in at the time.
So I drop my mom off at the airport with my father in law and instead of a thank you a very long text. It was like she had a chip on her shoulder towards me because I didn’t let her do whatever she wanted with my son. Oh and this was her second time seeing my boy in a year. She sent a massive long text saying that I’m your mother I raised you. Instead of saying thank you. She has almost 9/10 been super critical of me. Either I didn’t get her the right gift or spend enough of my attention on her. Stuff like this. I went back to the blocking her. My brother the golden child who she shows up for doesn’t see the drama. My Dad passed away. My aunt also not around. I literally have no other blood family. I thank God for my husband’s parents and his family being emotionally stable. My Mom really can’t stand it when the attention isn’t on her. It doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative. She likes to be at the center of everything. When I gave birth to my son after we had moved I didn’t invite. She made my pregnancy all about her and how she wasn’t allowed to be in the room. I lived with 45 minutes away from her for 37 years. And only saw her maybe on holidays. So I didn’t invite her to my birthday I saw my child birth as reward for me and my husband after moving from West Coast to East Coast. She didn’t even take additional time to spend with me and my husband before we left. I also worked with a 15 minute drive from her house. She never reached out to me to do stuff. Not so much as a hey come spend the night at my place. Nothing. My small blood family I’m not in contact with them since they think I’m the one being cruel to her. Me and my husband had asked if we could stay with her once tell we knew what our living situation would be like. I lost sleep. Was stressed out and was able to find an apartment. This was several years ago. They think of her lack of help leaving me homeless. Not visiting me. Isn’t enough to go no contact. She’s been in my current home state several times to visit her new husband’s family but not me or mine. I feel I’m justified in going no contact with someone who clearly doesn’t want to spend time with me. I’m 39 and moving again soon with my husband for his job. Pretty soon she won’t even have a current address for me. Sometimes the best “revenge “ on narcissistic family members is to let them go. Forgive them. Then never speak to them again and no access.