I (18F) am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend (18M), and I feel like he’s losing interest. What should I do?

We’re both 18 and started dating about a month ago. We live far apart, I’m in Europe, and he’s in America. When we first started talking, things felt amazing. We connected really well, and I honestly felt like he might be “the one.”

But lately, I’ve been feeling kind of forgotten. I went on vacation last week, and we barely talked. Whenever we do call, the conversations feel one-sided. I brought it up, and he said he’d try to talk more, but nothing really changed.

Yesterday, we were playing a Roblox game with some of his friends. They wanted to play a game called Pressure, which isn’t really my thing. I asked if we could play something else, but he didn’t seem to hear me, he just kept chatting with his friends. When he finally responded a few minutes later, he just asked, “Last call, do you want to play Pressure with us?” I felt left out because the call was basically silent the whole time, so I told him I might as well leave since we weren’t really talking. He just said “ok,” and that was it.

It was 1 a.m. for me, so I went to sleep. He never called back. The next day, I asked why, and he said they played until 9 p.m. and then he went to eat. I told him I stayed up waiting until 3 a.m. hoping he’d message me, but he just apologized, and we didn’t talk much after that.

Earlier today, I told him I’ve been feeling like he forgets I exist sometimes and that I really miss him. He replied, “You know we don’t always have to be on call, right? We can still do stuff we want to do even if the other person doesn’t want to.” I said I understood but reminded him that we’ve barely talked all week, and I miss him. He hasn’t responded yet, he’s at school right now.

The thing is, I still really love him. He checks every box for me except that he struggles to keep conversations going. I don’t know how to deal with the distance and time zones anymore. I’m scared of losing him, but I’m also exhausted.

How do I even handle this? Should I talk to him again about it or consider ending things?

TL;DR My long-distance boyfriend (both 18) doesn’t talk much during our calls or respond when I try to connect. I feel like he’s losing interest, but I still love him and don’t know if I should break up or try to fix things.

Posted Oct 28, 2025, 4:58 PM UTC

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