I get uncomfortable asking for baby back.

I felt like this with my first and I swore to myself that when I have my second, I’ll be more proactive with asking for baby back when I need or want to. But of course, that hasn’t happened and I have resorted to my husband speaking on my behalf. Which is fine, but I hate the fact that I feel uncomfortable and even some guilt when I need baby back. Maybe I’m afraid of others judging me and thinking I’m some helicopter mom that’s hovering over her baby too much?! Or maybe they’ll think I don’t want them holding my baby?

For example, my MILs sister was in town. She doesn’t have any grandchildren of her own yet and she was ecstatic to hold my baby. Of course, I let her and had no problem with that. But my baby is only 2.5 months and is often quite fussy still so I usually would take him back (from my husband) so I can put him to sleep. Anyways, he started to fuss and I just froze. My gut was telling me it’s okay to ask for baby back but a wave of guilt washed over me.

This ALWAYS happen. Whether baby is fussing and I need to take him back, or simply i just want him back for no reason. It’s like my throat closes up and my tongue refuses to work.

Have you felt like this? How did you get over it?