Hi everyone,
I (44M, divorced) met Jane (34F, divorced) while visiting my sister for a few weeks. Jane lives next door to my sister.

From the very first weekend, she came over late one night and we talked about our past relationships for hours. During the week, she invited me for coffee and told me her ex had recently shown up at her workplace, saying she’d never go back to him because once something ends, it’s over for her.

She often initiated our meetups, sometimes with small excuses, and our conversations were always deep and personal. She also asked quite a few questions about money, which I found unusual.

We started meeting more often, and at some point went on a small trip together. After that, she became affectionate over messages, calling me “dear.” But her behavior was inconsistent - warm and close one day, distant the next.

Before I left town, I told her I had feelings for her. She said she didn’t want anyone in her life right now, that she felt emotionally scattered and overwhelmed. So I backed off and didn’t message her the next day. That same evening, she texted me asking me to come over for coffee again. I went - it felt friendly, maybe just a “neighbor thing.” But it showed me she could easily reinitiate contact when she wanted to.

She later opened up a bit again, seemed relaxed around me. Then, over the next two nights, she said she wasn’t feeling well - her blood pressure was low. When I asked if she was okay, she ignored my texts, then eventually stopped responding altogether.

No contact the following Thursday. Friday afternoon she called out of nowhere saying, “Your package arrived - it’s just one book, I forgot to tell you last night.” It was such a trivial reason to call, but I found it oddly intentional.

That night, we talked deeply again - about life choices, my potential job transfer, where I might live next, and she even guessed my salary “must be above X amount.”
The next day, Saturday, we spent from 2 p.m. to 11 p.m. together. Sunday, I went back home, and we texted a bit afterward.

On Monday evening, she called around 9 p.m. just to “check in.”. She asked firstly about my potential job transfer. We spoke for about 20 minutes, then kept texting. She even talked about future vacation plans together and said, “You should start earning big money soon!”

Tuesday night, she had guests but later sent me some random photos after midnight, and Wednesday morning we joked about them over text.
Then - silence. No messages all day Wednesday, Thursday, or through the weekend.

On Sunday night, I finally texted to ask how she was doing - just a friendly “Hope you had a good rest.”

The next morning, she told me that she had gotten back together with her ex the night before and thought it would be best if we stopped talking.

After all the things she said about never going back to him, I was shocked. She seemed to just flip a switch and cut contact completely.

My question:

What was this?
Was she genuinely interested but confused, or was I just an emotional placeholder while she made up her mind about her ex?
I’m not angry - just trying to understand what really happened here.