A couple incidents

This is just a small part of me having to manage all the chores, but I was just thinking of it.

I was struggling to keep up with household chores. I asked him to do the dishes. He said he does, he's done them twice in the past month. I said, "No, you haven't. You put them to soak twice, but you didn't do them." "I did do them. That's doing them." "Dude, that's not doing the dishes. That's soaking them. You have to complete the chore. You didn't. I did." And then he got moody and pouty and left for a while.

Later on I asked him to do just his dishes, cleaning up after himself, and then a few minutes later he started doing just mine (mine had been there all of 5 minutes, he had some from over a week). I got mad, he got moody and "I'm doing what you asked, I can't please you," and shut himself in a room with earbuds.

I just wanted help, but in asking for it I usually managed to upset him and be the one in the wrong.