Follow-up: How can you talk to a potential daily?

Salaam,

If you are employed, how can you talk to people daily? I'm genuinely not even trying to be funny. I've faced this issue with like half of the potentials I've spoken to. Some were still students, so I get it them folks got too much time on their hands, but some have been people who have graduated and work full-time which is mad to me.

I think a handful of calls throughout the week around important relevant topics and meeting once a week to talk f2f is WAYYYYY more than sufficient. In an ideal world, that is the case, but this does not apply to most of the women I have spoken to. And it's not even meaningful convos they're expecting. I'm not a digsi oo maran, I don't mind yapping about nonsense here and there, but it just gets to a point. I'm not trying to iska waran and talk about nonsense like we're homies maalin walba.

A few comments mentioned that I would want to talk to that "special" someone who "cares" about me so much daily. I'm assuming they were youngins... What on earth makes a random talking stage any special? Care kulahaa. Nothing is set in stone so why are we investing unnecessary time in strangers? I genuinely believe that 90% of the dilemmas here could be prevented if you treated talking stages for what they are. But most folks treat them like full-blown relationships without the sex part let's be real. I've been there plenty of times, but experience is the best macalin.

This person isn't your wife or husband, so why invest your limited free time into pointless stuff? This person is also most likely talking to other people as well. Not something I personally even have the time for, but when you're talking to someone they most likely are courting others or have a roster, that's just how the majority of Somalis do it. No matter how exclusive you think it is, yes the girl/guy you are talking to is scouting other potentials. So you're essentially burning your little smooth masqax out for nin kale naagtiisa ama naag kale ninkeeda.

I've been on the other side of the fence, I've done all the directionless chitterchatter, emotional investment, fun dates and meaningless convos driven by fleeting emotions. All of that is pointless, you'll start despising the person after a while. Do yall repeat this same energy draining cycle with every potential?

I was recently talking to a girl I met through a mutual (her friend). We spoke for a bit and hand on heart I have nothing negative to say about her. We spoke for around a month and extreme yappington started from her side slowly. Bubbly girl but I couldn't keep up. I tried my best because I was obviously interested, she seemed like a well-rounded girl and the mutual link was someone I respect. I was forcing it but it genuinely killed me inside so I tried discussing the frequency of contact with her and she said hayye and explained that she understood. I tried calling her 2 days later but I was blocked everywhere. Macassalaama baa la igu dhuftay lmao.

Am I built for shukansi or no?