Now My wife and I have been married for four years we have triplets ,age 3,that just started all day Montessori school this year.

I love my kids.I love my wife. Hell I even love the damn cat Mittens, bit the simple problem is my wife is a candle addict.She has hundred of them. Scented, unscented, novelty candles, collectables, tradional ,big, small she has them all. She loves buying them, stockpiling them, and yes burning them.

That is where the cat has become the problem. Mittens is a new addition to the household,the cat is an old mouser that loves murdering the local small fauna, rats,mice and birds mostly. He is a good cat who does what cats do. Including but not limited too knocking things over and causing chaos.

What does Mittens like knocking over most in the world you might ask? Well let me tell you...Candles...pertucilarly burning candles... that my wife like to light for the atmosphere while meditating....ie.... sleeping because she always falls asleep half way though....

I have been home both times this has happened and was able to keep the cat from indulging his inner arsonist ,and burning the house down with us in it... The first time it happened the candle was a bucket candle and landed on its side other the a little wax on the floor and me burning my hand picking it up not damage thankfully...

I woke my wife up told her what happenes and dug the candle warmer my mother bought her for her birthday last year out of the garage. My wife apologized for not paying better attention to the cat when lit candles were around,promised to use the candle warming instead of lighting the candles so this did not happen again... and i thought everything was sorted...nope boy was I wrong...

My wife decided to go to TikTok and complain about how I was an asshole for not letting her light candles anymore after she rescued a cat from the shelter.... she stopped burning the candles....when I was home... but the internet app backed sisterhood of the travelling bullshit... told her she was justified in lighting candles for meditation because she did not give them all the information... I have seen the video she posted and saved it and have forwarded it to my divorce attorney.

The second time this happened I was not home when my wife decided to light candles and fall asleep while meditating but the cat and more importantly our children were home when she decided to indulge in this perticular act of stubborn lunacy.

The cat knocked over the candle again while she was asleep , it set the xarpet on fire this time... and for whatever reason our neighbor the retired fire chief decided to come by that day at that time to ask to borrow my hedge trimmer. Thank god that man has a spidy sense god willing every person in the country has a neighbor like him it would pervent to many disasters.

Neighbor saw the fire on the carpet from through the window next to our front door and my wife asleep on a yoga mat and he at six foot seven of him kicking in the front door... woke my wife up in the process... and the neighbor stomped out the fire save my entire fucking family in the process... my children are alive because of that man and his heroic actions...neighbor called me after this happened...my wife had asked him not to say anything to me...

I came home after he called me got the kids made sure they were alright took the children to the doctor to confirm they were alright and then drove them to my parents.Told my parents what happened went back to the house and spoke to my wife....a lot of yelling after asking if she was alright and her saying sje was fine was involved.

She claims she has the candle warming because it ruins the ambiance of her meditation...I told her she could either get rid of the candle or the cat because this shit had happened twice and this time the damn cat and those candle had nearly killed our children in a fucking house fire... she refused and called my a controlling asshole who never supported her spirtual journey...I told her she had 24 hours to make a decision and that the kids and I would be stay at my parents where there is not risk of dying from smoke inhalation...I packed a couple bags with her yelling at me and left... and went staight to buddy who it a divorce attorney I took picture of the burned carpet and the cat on my way out the door... my buddy told me he could have paper done by next week I have all of our financial information saved in a cloud server to I just emailed everything to him and went back to my parents told them the situation and started calling friends and family to alert them to the events that had just happened particularly my in laws who love cats and their daughter...

She decided to refused getting rid of the cat or to stop lighting candles in the house so I filed for divorce and here we are now....I had documentation of everything so I have custody of the child for the entire divorce process while we handle the finer detail of things like property division and child support with this...The child are safe with me and my parents...but some friends are calling me an asshole for divorcing my wife over this.

So Am I The Asshole for divorcing my wife over our pyromaniac cat named Mittens?