Dealing with avoidant breakup

Hi I would like some advice. I started dating my ex about a year ago. We actually met in college over 10 years ago and reconnected. Over time, I realized he is an avoidant with narcissistic tendencies. He would always breadcrumb me. I would see him maybe once a week. He never took me on dates or even get me a birthday gift. He was always hot and cold. I broke up with him a couple of times but we always got back together because I was pulled toward him. I think it might have been a trauma bond. I don’t think he liked that I broke up with him and wanted the final say. The last time we were broken up, we started talking again and hung out. He said he wanted to get back together but didn’t want to talk about it that night since he was stressed at work. I asked him when we would talk but he was avoiding me. I finally told him I wouldn’t chase him anymore and if he wanted to see me, he could let me know. Silence. He never responded to that. I texted him a few more times and got nothing. He ghosted me. It’s now been 3 months of nothing. I’m having a hard time letting go of him even though I know he’s not a healthy partner and I deserve better. I’m not sure if he’ll ever reach out again but maybe that’s a good thing. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?