Does anyone have experience dealing with family surrounding enabler dad?

I thought my dad was codependent but now I’ve begun thinking he might have been actually narcissistic as well.

It was clear my mom was narcissistic, as she was an alcoholic and a lot of the same traits go hand in hand. But now I have begun to think she might have been equally abused by my dad, her husband.

Except when she was abused everyone got angrier at her, saying she was lying, making things up, she had pushed him to do it…

Now my mother is gone and all I have are memories, and these memories remind me my father was far from perfect.

It’s brought forth anger at him. Because no one checked him, just blamed my mother who was obviously sick and addicted. Yet my father, the one who came to sobriety time and time again? What about him?

My mother died alone. My father has the whole family surrounding him, enabling him.

It’s made me sick. Where’s everyone’s anger for supplying my mom the alcohol for all of those years? He was buying it for her and himself. Yet she loses her life and he carries on.

The sick family system is still in place, enabler father is still carrying it on. He’s still worshiping golden child and only has relationship with golden childs child. Now I’m thinking the sick family system was something he put in place. Why didn’t it die with our mom? Why is he still carrying it on? And why is everyone okay with it?