Question about rv homesteading

So my husband and I have been living in an RV staying at rvparks full-time since 2021. Ideally we wanna find a place we can lay down roots and start homesteading we're saving money to buy land. But we probably will end up living in the RV while we build something more permanent but one of the issues we've been finding is that a lot of the land we've even seen for sale exclusively say you can't live in a camper/rv. Many say you can store it but not live in it. A lot of the land we've been looking at tends to even be out in the boonies, so im not even sure how theyd police it. Im not certain financially if we'd be able to swing the buying of the land, the construction and then also rent for a lot at an rv park plus travel etc while also working fulltime while we get stuff setup.

Wondering what solutions any of you might have for this?

We're specifically trying to aim for a state that has progressive views towards the LGBTQ as our son is trans and we wanna make sure he's safe.